Self-Care Toolkit – what’s in yours?

How many of us make time for this? How many of us even know what this means? How many times do I see blank faces staring back at me in clinic when I even mention this term? Did you know that there is an Australian organisation whose vision states “Better health through responsible Self Care”[1]? What benefit do you get by practising self-care?

Before proceeding, a definition of ‘self- care’ is required and the World Health Organisation offers a valuable description –

Self-care is what people do for themselves to establish and maintain health, prevent and deal with illness. It is a broad concept encompassing:

• hygiene (general and personal);
• nutrition (type and quality of food eaten);
• lifestyle (sporting activities, leisure etc.);
• environmental factors (living conditions, social habits, etc.);
• socioeconomic factors (income level, cultural beliefs, etc.);
• self-medication”
[2] and they are activities “… undertaken by lay people on their own behalf, either separately or in participative collaboration with professionals.”[3]

Health is ultimately your responsibility! I know from personal experience that if you don’t or can’t find time for yourself with good food, exercise and spiritual sustenance, then your joy for life, compassion and core self can wither leaving you in a dark place and feeling very isolated.

A good analogy for self care is the emergency instruction given on a plane of putting on your oxygen mask on before assisting anyone else. Essentially what this means is that, if you want to be able to look after family, relationships, work, etc. you need to be able to look after yourself first.

Thanks to the recommendation of another healthcare professional/friend/peer, I recently read a book titled ‘The Art of Extreme Self-Care’ by Cheryl Richardson (New York Times best-selling author). The title sounds a bit intense, granted, but as one tool in your ‘Self-care Toolkit’ it is a great start and it’s an easy read. I know, you’re probably saying right now, ‘I don’t have time’ and frankly, that is probably the number one objection I have to negotiate in a clinical setting when discussing this topic.

What I say to clients (and to you) is this, “How much do you value your quality of life?” and “What are the consequences if you don’t invest in yourself?

The table below lists some starter self-care suggestions. Ask yourself “what are you doing now?” and “what would you like to do?”. Try just one and you may be surprised with the results. What have you got to lose?

Starter self-care suggestions to add to your toolkit, divided into 4 self-care areas. You can choose whichever you feel you can do, and implement any one of them immediately:

Physical Emotional Psychological Spiritual
  • Make an appointment with yourself
  • Eat regular meals daily
  • Eat a balanced, whole food diet
  • Sleep when you feel the need
  • Schedule a massage or facial
  • Plan a holiday
  • Take a bath
  • Daily exercise, even a walk around the block
  • Reduce stress
  • Gardening
  • Be kind, gentle and accept yourself
  • Take time for laughter
  • Spend quality time with family
  • Spend quality time with good friends
  • Schedule some ‘me’ time
  • Lose negative situations & people
  • Replace negative thoughts and feelings – make the choice to change
  • Mindfulness
  • Ask for help*
  • Learn when (and how) to say ‘no’
  • Identify work/life balance
  • Acknowledge your thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and feelings
  • Learn how to recognise and express anger in constructive ways
  • Learn something new
  • Find or create a support group
  • Practise mindfulness
  • Develop curiosity

 

  • Spend time in nature
  • Make time for reflective practice
  • Live by your values
  • Make time for uplifting  activities for you – e.g. music, meditation, singing, dancing, literature, sculpture, painting, art, playing an instrument, prayer, yoga

*Support from family and friends is not always practical and from experience, both personal and professional, asking for help from objective, qualified professionals, independent resources and specialist organisations can, in certain circumstances, yield better support outcomes.

Useful links –

http://www.higginspsych.com/HPS.com/Wellbeing_Information.html

http://socialwork.buffalo.edu/content/dam/socialwork/home/self-care-kit/self-care-assessment.pdf

http://socialwork.buffalo.edu/content/dam/socialwork/home/self-care-kit/stress-warning-signs-and-symptoms.pdf

http://stress.about.com/od/lowstresslifestyle/tp/self_care.htm

References – 

[1] ASMI, http://www.asmi.com.au/home/default.aspx

[2] http://apps.who.int/medicinedocs/en/d/Jwhozip32e/3.1.html, 1998, viewed 31 July 2014

[3] http://apps.who.int/iris/bitstream/10665/70092/1/HED_84.1.pdf?ua=1, 1983, viewed 31 July 2014

Image credit – http://its-fitting.com/2013/10/oxygen-mask/